Quit being a wuss! We've become a planet full of milksops. You'd rather sit in front of your idiot box and watch others being warriors instead of getting in the ring yourself. Aren't you sick of it? Sitting watching the pooper bowl as your fat ass takes another helping of chip and dip. Isn't it time to get up and quit worshipping others who are 'living the life' and live the life yourself? I sure think so.
When people are accomplishing creative tasks and goals that they build themselves, they become more confident. Your voice becomes more smooth and your dick gets bigger. What are you best at? If you don’t know, ask somebody. Personally, I love to write and I love to motivate people. Thus, this book.
Many of us are stuck at a cubicle all day, our faces in front of a computer screen. Counting how many hours there will be until work ends. Or whatever. It could be working as a Barista at starbucks, having your 4th espresso to keep yourself motivated to work, as your adrenal glands cry bloody murder.
Chances are if you’re reading this book it’s because you need a kick in the ass that your folks never gave you. Or maybe they did kick your ass and so you spent so much time wallowing in self pity trying to lick your wounds. How’s that workin’ for you? Sounds like a lot of fun, sitting around feeling sorry for yourself.
Such a special little snowflake you are, nobody would understand, right? Nobody has had your problems. Your problems are worse than mine right? Nobody gets how hard you have it. People should offer to help you right? They would come over and bring you meals and chicken soup for the soul if they knew how tough you had it. War Veterans, Orphans, what do they know about pain? You’re the one who had it worse. Why should you have to work hard? You’ve already suffered so hard! Why do you even have to wash your own dishes? You should have servants catering to your every whim and need! Guess what? That’s pussy talk! Your brain has been overcome with wussyisms. Do you think BRUCE LEE thought like that? How long do you think Arnold Schwarznegger sat around weeping when a girl rejected him? 10 seconds maybe? Than he started pounding the pavement looking for the next victim!
Quit wanting everything to be easy and simple! While your lazy co-workers are waiting around for the elevator dash up the stairway! If your boss chides you for being too sweaty you can blame me. And remember this: it’s good to sweat. Too many people look at you like you’re a freak if you sweat too much. They want to keep their civilized beta asses free from any trauma. Let them have their boring safety. Or give them a copy of this book, if you care enough.
We have everything at our fingertips. A bunch of convenience cows sitting around silently grazing in the grass waiting for others to tell us what to do. I want to wake you up! Quit being a complacent wussbag! Stop listening to people in your life who want nothing good for you and listen to ME! The first thing I want you to do when you get home today, or if you're already home, is as soon as you finish reading this, put on some running shoes and shorts. If you're THAT out of shape start with a walk. But start getting the victory voice in your head. "Can't you go any faster? Can't you do it better?" I will whip you into shape if it's the last thing I do. Get some oxygen in your brain. Your going to need it for this book. I didn't write this for dummies. If you've been sitting around all day you need to go get your blood pumping. Do a few pushups too. QUIT BEING A wussbag! Say this to yourself 10 times out loud: “From this day onward, I AM THROUGH BEING A FUCKIN’ PUSSY!”
Don’t envy people that “have it easy.”
So would you like some WHINE with you cheese? Seems like that's everybody's drink of choice these days. I lived in Los Angeles for the better part of a decade. Man is it crawling with people waiting to hate anyone who’s more successful than they are. You hear people complaining about nepotism all the time.
“If my dad was a famous director, I’d be a movie star too!”
Well, newsflash. Most people that grow up in that kind of spotlight have to work extra hard proving themselves. Maybe you should be thankful that you’re a nobody starting from scratch. You have that much more credibility starting from the ground up. If you want to be a creator, A writer, a whatever, it’s better to start from humble beginnings. My dad is a blue collared worker. I didn’t get much financial support from him growing up and I pouted about it for about 5 minutes. Than I noticed that a lot of the spoiled rich kids with Dads paying their rent were often paralyzed by money. They often didn’t want to do tasks they felt were beneath them or get their hands dirty whatsoever.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO GET YOUR HANDS DIRTY! It’s great when you can learn how to do shit for yourself, whether it’s changing the oil in your car or even riding your bike sometimes instead of driving. TAKE THE HARD WAY SOMETIMES. Go stay in the rough part of town a night or two. I recommend going to a poor country and staying in A crappy room for a couple weeks to see how much rougher people have it than you.
Heck, I’m in India right now. When I go outside I see people begging for change, some don’t have arms or legs, some are blind. There’s a whole block a few minutes away from here where several families live together in huts made of rubber tires and bricks. It’s good to get perspective. You’ll never catch me complaining about what a dump this hotel room is. That’s because I’ve got a attitude of gratitude and that keeps me forever humble.
A couple weeks ago I was staying in an apartment where often times only the water from the kitchen would work so I’d fill it up with water and take it to the bathroom and have a bucket shower. But it was fun! Sometimes a cold shower is what you need to wake up! Needless to say the weather was in the hundreds, and it wasn’t fun when the Air condition didn’t work. I just considered my room to be a free sauna in a health club. Think of all of those toxins I sweated out!
Self pity doesn’t make you special.
Our resident bearded guru Osho had a great quote: “If you suffer it is because of you. If you feel blissful it is because of you. Nobody else is reponsible- only you and you alone. You are your hell and your heaven too.”
So, if I’m getting too metaphysical for you, grow a pair. The only way to reach superhuman strength and go after your dreams and goals in life is to reach for a higher state of mind. It’s how people lift themselves out of the gutter. Self pity doesn’t make you special. What makes you special is having problems and rising above them. Even your laziness could be an obstacle that you can jump over.
Think of how good it will feel to push yourself harder than you ever have yet. Think about if you start waking up an hour earlier than usual how much more you can get done. Yesterday I didn’t want to run after work so I changed into shorts and started out walking. After a few minutes I did want to run. The intention was to move my ass and in so doing so I got inspired to go faster.
Don’t hang around people who are lazy - slowly peel yourself from the influence of the slugs and sloths. We become who we associate with- I know it’s a sad cliche but it’s true. Learn to say no to invitations more often than you say yes. You’re getting ready for the red carpet club- you don’t need to go to every mediocre ass party you’re invited to just because your greedy ass wants some free hors d’ouevrs.
Do something different with your life.
Do something different with your life.
Don’t be one of those losers on Facebook with their sad little quotes complaining that nobody gave them a chance. You’re your own manager. Get out the bullhorn and yell at yourself if you have to. Or listen to me yelling in your ear. “Come on, I know you can do better than that!” Put down the bong long enough to do a few extra pushups. Take your chubby paws out of the ice cream bowl just a little while longer. You deserve better. Throw out your television and buy a juicer. I guarantee you, just making a 12 oz. glass of green vegetable juice for yourself every morning will spike up your energy 200 percent. You want to start a band? Go get a guitar and start playing open mikes! Who cares if you suck! You have to start somewhere! You want to be a film maker? Start making videos on a cheap camera and put them on youtube! I made a music video at L.A. City College using the school’s equipment. It was a blast.
There are tons of resources out there for people that want to do something different. It just doesn’t feel like it sometimes. But once you start a project and your excited about it, and you get other people excited, it builds momentum. A lot of the most famous rock bands out there started with poor kids jamming in someone’s basement. Necessity is the mother of invention! Tell yourself you can never rest on your laurels! Even when you become successful! Especially when you become successful! That’s when you really have to be careful not to get spoiled.
It’s amazing that people forget how awesome it is that we can Skype our friend in Sweden from California or whatever. I get giddy when I’m flying around in an airplane. I’m so far from jaded, I don’t think I could ever get sick of traveling. Yet all I hear is people complaining about the food, how they’re scrunched in like sardines. Yeah it’s not that comfortable, but either is boredom and complacency.
Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s great to have modern conveniences. I’m writing this on a Macbook. I’m not going to go buy a typewriter anytime soon. But think for a minute how much easier everything is. We have to push ourselves if we want to stay on top of the game. It is so easy to get sucked into video games, TV shows, and movies that do nothing for us. I love movies as much as anyone, but I don’t just go see any movie. And neither should you. Everything you do should be about building Character. It’s a waste of time to go see the latest vapid blockbuster just because your friends want you to go.
Everybody wants to be accepted by their peers and it’s their downfall. You want to be like your fat ass boss just because he makes a lot of money? What’s he spend all that money on? Making his woman happy? She’d probably be happier with less money and less fat on his belly. If she wouldn’t be he’s with the wrong woman but that’s a whole other book.
I’d rather be in shape making 6 figures than some stressed out smoker who’s worth a million bucks. It’s good to work a lot but not at a job that makes you miserable. Nothing is worth having bags under your eyes 5 days a week and just waiting till you can veg out all weekend.
I’m not saying this stuff out of nowhere! I’ve been lazy too! That’s why I know how hard it is to break the pattern. But it’s either that or I guarantee you, you will find yourself miserable wondering where the years went. Don’t let it happen! Make a commitment RIGHT NOW to yourself that you will not let yourself slip any more. Quit being a 21st century lazy weakling. Some day you will thank me. Or buy more of my books. Either way, we’ll all be winners.
OK, I’ll leave the Pickup for the pickup artists. I’m not a PUA but I believe it is good to learn some game. The gist of game is basically to quit putting women on pedestals and acting like they’re perfect creatures that don’t go to the bathroom. Quit being a pussy and kissing her ass. David Deida says in his book “The way of the superior man” that it’s more important to align yourself with your mission than anything. Basically, it may be counter intuitive, but if you make your woman or anyone else your mission in life, they won’t respect you. In other words, you may be picking up the check, and than she may be “checking out” on you.
OK, I’ll leave the Pickup for the pickup artists. I’m not a PUA but I believe it is good to learn some game. The gist of game is basically to quit putting women on pedestals and acting like they’re perfect creatures that don’t go to the bathroom. Quit being a pussy and kissing her ass. David Deida says in his book “The way of the superior man” that it’s more important to align yourself with your mission than anything. Basically, it may be counter intuitive, but if you make your woman or anyone else your mission in life, they won’t respect you. In other words, you may be picking up the check, and than she may be “checking out” on you.
You have to have an important mission in life. Whether it’s freeing slaves in Africa, learning to code, becoming more fit than you’ve ever been, or learning how to camp out in the wild. It should come from you and you alone. You can be inspired by other people, but the strong urging must come from your soul and heart alone.
“But what about getting laid?” Getting laid is important. But put your mission first. If you have to go through a dry spell while your figuring it out, it may be worth it. If your wife or girlfriend doesn’t want you growing in this manner, it may be time to part ways! Better now than later! If she wants to grow and support you what a lucky man you are! If she’s content with you being a pussy she’s probably not the woman for you.
It isn’t virtuous to be passive aggressive. If you feel somebody is being unfair to you, let them know. It’s about the principle. That doesn’t mean you need to be one of those snooty assholes at the restaurant always sending food back. But if you asked for over easy and they bring you scrambled let em know! Get into the habit of politely asserting what it is you want. If you don’t stand up for yourself nobody else will.
I learned this the hard way. I spent great chunks of my life working with people I knew weren’t right for me. I kept going along with it because I felt it would be too hard to change. But guess what? That handcuff that you feel is chained to your wrist, you think it’s some heavy clunky thing. In reality, the handcuff is a paper bracelet you can tear apart easily and walk away. You’ve been duped into feeling like your stuck for too long now. Guess what? If there’s something you’ve been wanting to end for a long time, something that isn’t right, a job a relationship, whatever, do it now.
You have a right to not being treated like crap. Unless you’re being lazy and not contributing what you know you could. But if someone is treating you like shit out of venomous hatred of their own life, you have no reason to take their crap. Let the world know you aren’t the one to be catching the shit! You’re building dreamcatchers not shitcatchers!
A lot of people out there are looking for their next weak victim. People want you to be miserable like they are. Don’t stand for it! Don’t let people dictate how you will live!
Get off your ass and go somewhere interesting.
Sometimes I wonder whether there’s some kind of conspiracy to keep people trapped in fear so they don’t feel a need to go on adventures to experience new ways of living. Traveling is the quickest form of inspiration and altered states in terms of getting out of your comfort zone. Even if you only have the weekend off, hop on a greyhound and go to some distant town. If you have longer go farther away. The farther and most different the surroundings are from your normal every day life the better.
If you need to hitchhike, go for it! Don’t let fear dictate your life. I’ve done tons of trips on craigslist rideshare and met so many amazing people. Some of them I’m still in touch with and continue to inspire me. Don’t let the crap on the news make you feel that the world is too scary and dangerous to go out there and make friends. But do be careful and guarded about sharing your energy with people who don’t get you. We can learn something from every single person we meet, even if it’s just that you don’t want to hang out with that type of person!
If you need to write down your goals or read something, don’t be afraid to find a quiet spot somewhere off the beaten track! You don’t always have to be at home or in an office to get shit done. But don’t let every stranger you meet distract you from your work either. It’s all about balance.
A new beginning!
Remind yourself it’s a new beginning. If you screw up, start over again! Count to ten and start from the beginning! Don’t worry about perfectionism. Just try to get a little better every day. At the same time don’t go soft on yourself!
